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So You Want to Have a Baby


Having a baby or not is truly an important decision. It can be the most exciting, thrilling, happy time of your life. Having a baby can also totally rock your world. No longer is it just about you. In fact, you now take a supporting role. It is now all about the little prince or princess that just joined your family. Their demands take precedence over anyone else.

I have never regretted my decision to have a child. Actually, I didn’t think that much before having a baby – it just happened. Only married for a couple of days, our first little girl ended up being a honeymoon baby (born nine months and two days after our marriage date). Here are a few things that I discovered while I was pregnant.

You worry a lot when you are pregnant. At least, I did. I worried if I was eating the right things. I also worried if I was gaining too much weight. Would the baby be cute, happy, healthy, etc. Then there is the morning sickness – although you could have called mine the evening sickness. I felt great every morning, went to work and by about 4 pm I started getting sick. The smell of the gas stove in our little apartment made me very nauseous. I could not eat much in the evening and was exhausted. So, of course, my husband ended up finding his own dinner most of the time.

You compare yourself a lot when you are pregnant. At least, I did. I would look at others who were pregnant and compare stomach sizes after asking how far along they were. I found that some ladies have very good genes and can hide the fact that they are pregnant for most of the duration. Not me, I looked like I had a huge watermelon inside my tummy that was lying on its side. People would ask me if I was having twins and I would reply that there was only one.

You cry a lot when you are pregnant. At least, I did. You cry over your lost youth, you cry over your lost figure, you cry over your inability to control your emotions, you cry when you are in labor, then you cry for joy the first time you see your baby. You sort of forget the pains you just went through, otherwise you probably wouldn’t do it again.

You feel a lot when you are pregnant. At least, I did. You feel the sweet stirrings of the growing baby inside of you, you feel deep concern for the baby, you feel a strong love for someone you have not met yet, and you feel a bond with the child that will last for the rest of your existence.

You learn a lot when you are pregnant. At least, I did. You learn that life is sacred, you learn that every thing you take into your body can affect the baby, you learn to take better care of yourself, you read a lot of books about pregnancy, new babies and parenting.

You pray a lot. You pray that you will be a good mother, that the child will be healthy and strong, that you and your husband will be able to support the baby, that you can protect the baby from all that is evil in the world.

Before you were conceived I wanted you
Before you were born I loved you
Before you were here an hour I would die for you
This is the miracle of Mother’s Love.
— Maureen Hawkins

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A Tribute to Our Mothers


Both my husband’s mother and my mother died the same year, 2007. Both of them had sacrificed all of their lives to take care of those around them.

My mother, Carol, had a beautiful soprano voice, and she was a featured soloist in her choir in high school. She sometimes sang duets with her father. She was raised in a small town in Sanpete County, Utah. She loved ice skating, dancing, and singing. She met my father at a dance. Once she was married, mother developed her talents of cooking. She made the best pies, tomato soup cake, raisin-filled cookies, and other baked goods. She also enjoyed beautifying her home, painting ceramics, doing embroidery and other handwork. Mother lovingly cared for her own mother and her mother-in-law in their latter years and sacrificing her own health in doing so.

Here is a poem I shared at my mother’s funeral:
As I reflect on the times that I remember her best,
it seems she was always enduring a test.
Of a life changing moment a love one had faced
or the choice of a path that was taken in haste.

She watched all her children,
as each found their way,
and each of the four knew where their place lay.
In the heart and the mind of a woman who knew
each child was a flower with its own special hue.

She left us too early, but she’s not really gone,
as she’s in all of us, so her beauty goes on.
And the wisdom and humor she showed through her days
is in each of us and displayed many ways.

She lives on in her children and in their children as well,
and all the great grands the uniqueness we’ll tell.
Of this very special person with a heart full of love
who left with us memories and thoughts from above.

Her passing left the world a little less colorful and a lot less interesting. But even in grief, we know we are so lucky to have had this loving woman in our lives, and now in our hearts forever.

My husband’s mother, Luisa, was half Caucasian and half Tongan. She was a beautiful lady with many gifts. She could sew, cook, dance and always had a smile on her face. Besides her eight natural children, she took care of many other children who consider her their mother. She and her husband served several missions for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. She also worked as a dorm mother at Liahona High School in Tonga.

When we lived in Tonga, I would often leave my children with Luisa and Vili, her husband. I was often surprised when I returned to pick up the children only to find she had sewn them new outfits. She was an excellent seamstress and would sew without patterns. She would also bake cakes and then decorate them beautifully. She lived most of her life in Tonga until her husband passed away after which she remained in the United States, living with her children and their families.

Her children rise up and call her blessed: her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all. ~ Proverbs 31:28-29

Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her works praise her in the gates. ~ Proverbs 31:30-31

I shall never forget my mother, for it was she who planted and nurtured the first seeds of good within me. ~ Immanuel Kant

Beauty is God’s handwriting. ~ Charles Kingsley

Happiness comes of the capacity to feel deeply, to enjoy simply, to think freely, to risk life, to be needed. ~ Storm Jameson

Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it. ~ Proverbs 22:6

The mother’s heart is the child’s schoolroom. ~ Henry Ward Beecher

My mother was the most beautiful woman I ever saw. All I am I owe to my mother. I attribute all my success in life to the moral, intellectual, and physical education I received from her. ~ George Washington.

Let parents bequeath to their children not riches, but the spirit of reverence. ~ Plato

There is an enduring tenderness in the love of a mother. ~ Washington Irving

The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world. ~ W.R. Wallace

From A – Z, a mother is an: administrator, baker, counselor, diplomat, efficiency expert, friend, gardener, home economist, inspirationalist, judge, kitchen authority, leader, mediator, nurturer, organizer, pedagogue, quality analyst, recreation leader, spiritual director, teacher, umpire, vacation planner, willing worker, holiday activities director, youth playground supervisor and a zest-filled encourager.

Sayings and quotes from Mother, I Love You by Helen Steiner Rice.

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Moving from the US Mainland to Hawaii


So, you are moving to Hawaii. Lucky you! Beautiful scenery, temperate weather, and beaches! Living in Paradise has some perks, and also some extra costs. You will be better prepared and assimilate faster into the community if you are aware of a few things.

Hawaii is a group of islands in the middle of the huge Pacific Ocean. It is the 50th state to join the United States. The more that you learn about the history of Hawaii, the better you can understand those around you. If you show a love and respect for the culture and especially the land (‘aina), you will have a much more positive experience.

Try to learn a few basic Hawaiian words and their meanings. The population is so diverse, but for the most part they speak in English and pidgin (a mixture of dialects). Most of the people who live in Hawaii share the aloha spirit, but you may find that a few are quite resentful of the way Hawaii became a state. Most of all, do not be judgmental and try to learn all you can from the people.

You will find that because the weather is fairly good all year round, the insects love it too. In order to avoid infestations by termites, cockroaches, mosquitos and other creatures, you will need to spray or put out baits on a regular basis. It is better to control them than to get rid of them.

The moist salty air is perfect for rusting just about everything. Vehicles and appliances seem to suffer the most. There is rust spray available that you can use to slow down the process. Also, mold and mildew can form quite easily especially in places where it is warm and moist like the kitchen and bathrooms. It takes extra effort to keep this under control unless you have an air conditioner going all the time. This can be harmful to your health if the mold is allowed to grow.

Also, food items seem to go bad quicker unless they are stored well inside of plastic air-tight containers. You can also keep many things in the refrigerator or freezer that you may not have in the mainland.

When there is no breeze, it can become quite hot and humid. Be sure to purchase enough fans or air conditioners to make your family comfortable. With the use of electricity comes a higher bill also, so think about cost-effective appliances.

Traffic on the island of Oahu can become very frustrating, especially close to Honolulu. Also, there is only one main road going to the North Shore of Oahu, so it can also be totally cut off if there is an accident or an electricity pole falls down on the road.

It is wonderful to have sandy beaches and palm trees close by. But, as I said, living in Paradise does come with a cost. In fact, prices in Hawaii are some of the highest in the nation. The cost of gasoline, groceries and clothes can be quite expensive. There are Walmarts, Costco and Sam’s Clubs where you can get the best deals. The cost of housing can be two or three times as much as on the mainland. It is also usually smaller than what most people on the mainland are used to.

Funny though, even with all the pros and cons of Hawaii, people who have lived in and loved the islands of Hawaii do not want to leave, or hope to move back soon. We have been living here for almost twenty years now and really love it. I have learned many lessons the hard way, so I thought writing this hub may help someone that is moving here have an easier time.

There is so much to see and do in Hawaii. Hiking, swimming, golfing, cruising and gardening are just a few things that can be done almost year round. Because of this, you probably will not want for visiting family and friends from the mainland while you live in Hawaii.

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Take a Day Cruise in Hawaii


There are a few day cruises you can take when you are on the island of Oahu, Hawaii. Perhaps you live on the island and just want a short getaway from the hectic pace of work and traffic. Or you may be visiting from another island or the US mainland. Visitors from all over the world come to Hawaii and take a day cruise on Oahu.

My husband and I went on the Navatek Dinner Cruise for our 35th anniversary. The Navatek is a state-of-the-art vessel that has received awards for ship design. It has been hailed as being the most comfortable and most stable ride in all of Hawaii according to Forbes Magazine.

We boarded the ship early evening and had a buffet of delicious tropical foods they call the surf ‘n turf in the Blue Hawaii Room.

Afterward you could either enjoy the live entertainment, walk up on the deck and enjoy the sunset, or just watch the Honolulu lights on the shore.

If you are fortunate, you may be able to spot a whale or some dolphins. The cruise is very affordable, takes about two hours and travels down past Diamond Head to see where some of the rich and famous of Hawaii live around the Kahala coastline.

For a more cozy and personal experience, you can take a morning or afternoon cruise on a catamaran. You will be able to see any sealife right up close including dolphins and sea turtles. The cruise lasts about two hours long and snacks are available as well as a full-service bar. The cruise starts near Waikiki Beach at the Kewalo Basin. There is room for about thirty people.

There are other day cruises available, but by far the most exciting during whale season in Hawaii is the Star of Honolulu Whale Watch Cruise.

Whales like to come to Hawaii during the months of December through May. The cruise offers naturalist experts who share their knowledge about the beautiful mammals. You can also hear the underwater whale songs on a hydrophone.

During the off season when the whales are traveling elsewhere, the cruise offers other activities like ukulele playing, hula dancing, and lei making. The cruise takes between two hours and two and a half hours.

For more information about the day cruises from Oahu, see hawaiidiscount.com or allhawaiitours.com