Keep the Lower Lights Burning


We must keep our homes sacred so they may be the lower lights in our lives.

Each Sunday I try to spend my time in worship. It is not always easy to set aside the worries and work of the week, but we are told to rest on the Sabbath from our labors.

One message that I enjoyed learning about in church was regarding Lower Lights . We often sing a hymn entitled “Brightly Beams our Father’s Mercy” that did not originate in our church, but has a profound meaning.

There is a story behind the hymn, and I will share it here.


And I Am a Mormon


Mormons (real name: The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints) have been compared and confused with the Amish, Jehovah Witnesses, Seventh Day Adventists, and Evangelical Christians.

While we may have some similarities with these religions, and respect them, our beliefs do have very distinct differences from theirs. Most people know us for what we can’t do rather than what we can actually do.


Creating a Memorial Garden

When my mother passed away, my father created a beautiful memorial garden for her.

A memorial garden is a tribute to someone who has died, which offers a place for members of the family or friends to remember and also to heal. It does not have to be large or extravagant, but it can include some of the flowers and items the loved one enjoyed during their life.



How to Avoid Drug Toxicity

How to Avoid Drug Toxicity.

Drug toxicity has been found to be a major public-health issue. If you have been on the same drug for several years, it may be that your medication is making you sicker rather than helping you. Most medications you take are eliminated from your body through the kidneys and the liver. However, as you age, there is a gradual decline in the ability of your kidneys and liver to process and clear the medications.


How to Connect with Your School Aged Children

Reword your questions

As a parent, you need to be there for your children to help alleviate the anxiety they are experiencing. But, instead of asking straight out what they are worried about, think about rewording your question. Ask them what their friends are worried about.They may share more with you if you approach it indirectly.

Visit the school before school starts

Some kids have difficulty with new situations, and may need more help getting adjusted than others. For these children, it may be best to visit the school before it starts and invite a friend to go with them. At least, then they will will be somewhat familiar with the facilities.

Some teachers will meet with students prior to school beginning and give them a little tour of their classroom so they can get an idea what to expect.

Parents can share some of their personal experiences such as what they remember about starting school in a new place. Also tell them stories of the fun things you remember about school and making new friends.

Making friends

Some children have difficulty making new friends. It would be good to make the teacher aware so that they can arrange a buddy for them to do activities together. That way they will not feel totally alone.

Letting go

Parents sometimes have as hard a time letting their child go to kindergarten as their child does leaving them. It is up to the parent to help them feel confident. A friend of mine was quite sad that her oldest son was going to go to kindergarten. He became worried about his mother and told her “don’t worry Mommy, I will come back from school, and we can spend time together and I will help you.” Put on a brave face and give them a big smile telling them how proud you are of them.


One of the biggest transitions seems to be when children advance to middle school. They go from being in only one classroom for the bulk of the day, to going to several classes with many different teachers.

Then again, when students start into high school, with their hormones increasing, their insecurities seem to resurface. At this age, their biggest issue seems to be trying to figure out their own identity. They try to find which group they fit in with.

Their peers become more important. Family should still be important, and it will be if the child is given the love and security from the parents they need, without being overbearing. They may have more relationship problems with friends and family members. Adolescence is usually the time that anxiety disorders are made manifest, some of which may need intervention with a specialist.

Individual Needs

Be aware of the child’s unique personality. You cannot treat all of your children the same and get the same results. Get to know what sets them off, so you can know when to step in and alleviate their fears, before the problem becomes clinical.

Make time for them

With the number of working mothers and fathers in this difficult economy, it takes extra effort to develop a rapport with your child so they trust you with their problems. If you act interested and try to connect on a daily basis, without getting upset, you will be more successful.

Many times it is difficult for children to verbalize what they are feeling. You may need to approach them when they are doing something they enjoy, rather than when they are stressed, to get the best answers.

Parents should try to play with their children a few minutes each day on an individual basis. Let them take the lead. Do not be judgmental or critical until you have am ample understanding of their feelings about a subject. You can then navigate their child’s emotions and prevent behavioral and conduct problems.

Difficult Behavior

If your child is acting out, or has behavioral problems, it could be just the back-to-school anxiety, or it could be something else. If it persists and interferes with their ability to function, you can have your child evaluated by a child psychiatrist. You can even go as a family to have family counseling. The child will usually react positively knowing they are being supported by a loving family.

If they are having difficulty fitting in socially, or having no academic success in their class, you need to catch it early, and try to help them before it affects their desire to go to school.

Establish a routine

If the child knows what is expected of them, they will most likely try to follow your schedule. Making sure they have a study time, meal time, chore time, play time and bed time will help them get in a good routine.

If the child knows where all of their things belong including their backpack, clothes, shoes, books and supplies, they will not be stressed unnecessarily. You can get things prepared before they go to sleep the night before so they will be in a good mood when they leave your home.

You may need to limit television, computers and video game use to help your child do better in school as well as finding time to be with friends more.

Some children need extra help getting ready for school, so it will not help if you are anxious yourself, but speak in a calm controlled way, and be as supportive as possible.


A child will be more likely to succeed if they are supported in their efforts by their parents. Even with all the demands on your time, you need to take time to connect with your school-aged children.


Beauty, health, Uncategorized

You Are Better Than You Think You Are, Motivational Thoughts

I will be paraphrasing some of Ardeth G. Kapps words. We often have feelings of being less than what we want to be. In fact, even reading some scriptures make us feel inadequate. “Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect.” (Matt 5.48) The scripture was not meant to discourage us, but rather to see that we have a destiny which is possible, but it takes one step at a time. We should feel glad that we have a loving Heavenly Father who has a plan for us.

Even though perfection is distant, by understanding our potential, we can have hope, faith, and even anticipation. In Romans 8:17 it says: “And if children, then heirs, heirs of God, and joint-heirs with Christ, if so be that we suffer with him, that we may be also glorified together” .That scripture gives me so much hope.

Why would we demean ourselves or lose confidence knowing the Savior has paid a great price for us?

An Old English weaver said “Oh God, help me to hold a high opinion of myself.” It does not mean we should be haughty, conceited or arrogant, but have a self respect and belief in our own worth, our worth to God, and our worth to man.

If we build up those around us instead of demeaning them and ourselves, we will be much happier in this life.

Ardeth Kapp told of a time she went to Washington, D.C. to participate in a national leadership task force. There was a great diversity in the women in attendance (age, culture, faith, language) yet they were all united in a cause to help protect the family and society. One of the women made an observation and said “One woman is helpful; ten women are influential; one hundred are powerful; one thousand are invincible.” Unity brings strength. That is why it is so important that we build others up instead of tearing them down. A good woman can feed those – including themselves – who hunger at times for a feeling of acceptance.

We are not good judges of ourselves as we reach for goals that may belong to another season of our lives.

A word of sincere commendation is like a ray of sunshine that brings a smile to the face and a warm feeling to the heart.

Ardeth Kapp mentioned that when she was the General President of the LDS Young Women’s Organization, she felt that she was not adequate for her position until a dear friend said to her “You Are Better than you think you are.”

Sometimes we set unrealistic goals for ourselves and become discouraged when we cannot reach them. We do not have to be so hard on ourselves. Just keep going.

Writing notes of appreciation for small acts of kindness, a great presentation, or to someone who followed through on something they promised, can be all they need to make their day. Our husbands, children, family members, friends all need a little encouragement from time to time. The effort it takes to write a little note or whisper a kind word can go a long way in cheering someone up.

At one Young Women celebration, they were asked to write brief message of love, hope and testimony and attach them to helium-filled balloons.They included their names and contact information. Then they all released them at the same time. Their messages were carried by the winds far and wide. Some were released in Ireland, Turkey, New Zealand, Bolivia and other areas.

One young woman who had released her balloon in Arkansas received a response from a man in Kentucky. He said that he had found the note while cutting hay in the field. He noticed a note and got off his tractor to look at it. He was so happy to have found it and said that it made him feel so good inside knowing there were still good people left in the world today.

What is man, that thou art mindful of him? and the son of man, that thou visit him? For thou hast made him a little lower than the angels, and hast crowned him with glory and honor. ~ Psalm 8:4-5

The Savior himself tells us to “be of good cheer.” (John 16:33) He is the one who will judge us and knows the intentions of our heart. He tells us also “I have graven thee upon the palms of my hands.” (Isaiah 49:16). He personally understands what we are going through and how much we suffer.

She quoted Elder Neal A Maxwell who said “Some of us who would not chastise a neighbor of his frailties have a field day with our own.” Sometimes we are too critical of ourselves. We need to be constructive critics, especially to ourselves.

From Elder Richard G. Scott, she quotes “God is not a jealous being who delights in persecuting those who misstep. His is an absolutely perfect, compassionate, understanding, patient, and forgiving father.”

She has a book titled How to Make Yourself Miserable . It suggests you always ask yourself about the past “if only”, the present “how come”, and the future “what if” to make you feel miserable. We should be more grateful for what we have, what we are and pray for the future.

To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. ~Ecclesiastes 3:1

Have you stopped long enough today to catch your breath and awaken your senses to the beauties of this season?

She quotes Elizabeth Barrett Browning who gives this insight:

Earth’s crammed with heaven,

And every common bush afire with God;

But only he who sees, takes off his shoes,

The rest sit around it and pluck blackberries

Are we distracted in picking blackberries and miss the magnificence of this time?


Artwork, Beauty, Cultures, Hawaii, holidays

Hawaiian Party Makeup and Costumes

You may be having a party and have chosen a Hawaiian theme. Or, you might have decided to go trick or treating as a Polynesian maiden.

Don’t worry men, we did not forget you! You can go as a Haka Warrior Hunk! Children also love to dress up in hula skirts and leis. And, don’t forget your dog!

Whatever the reason is, here are some costume and makeup ideas you might want to consider. For sure it will put you in a festive mood. You will feel like you are already in Paradise.

For the Ladies

Grass skirt (you can make your own – see below)
Hawaiian print midriff top, bikini top or coconut bra
Clear sandals, flip flops or bare feet
Flower to pin behind your ear
Lei or leis – can be worn as anklets, crowns or bracelets
You can also take a headband and sew artificial flowers to it

To look like the glamorous vintage Hawaiian pin-up girls

Wear a figure hugging halter top with a cinched waistline in a floral print or a bikini top
Sarong or pareo as a skirt
With this you will want to wear stilletos
Flower behind ear and leis around neck
Or if you are a bit shy and feel a little exposed, you can wear a sun dress or a muumuu-style dress which is long and flowing, and usually comes in floral colors or patterns.

For the Men

Loose fitting Aloha shirt
Khaki shorts
Sandals, flip flops or bare feet
Straw hat or visor

To look like the Haka Warrior Hunk

Bare chest (looks best with muscles)
Hula skirt or floral-print sarong worn tight like a short skirt – sort of like a diaper
Spear or sharp stick
Greenery around arms, ankles and on head (could be an artificial green lei)
Fake tribal tattoos on biceps or wherever
May need to use some quick tanning solution
Colored contacts (brown or dark) if you really want to get into it (surprise her!)

Hawaiian Luau Makeup Ideas

To really have fun, add some vibrant Hawaiian makeup. Shades of turquoise, azalea, amethyst, ocean frost, and Aztec gold are just a few that are available to use.

Don’t forget plenty of eyeliner and mascara. Don’t forget the eyebrows too. Have fun with it.

Gotta have bright lipstick – come on it is just for one night!

There are some great eye makeup videos on this hub, so be sure to watch them and be inspired. I was.

Ideas for Face Painting at Your Party

Be sure to use hypoallergenic paints for face painting.

Of course, a luau brings to mind delicious fruits of Hawaii, including pineapples, coconut, and bananas.

Also, tropical flowers are popular, including orchids, plumeria, hibiscus and bird of paradise. You could even paint a small palm tree on some lucky person.

Sea creatures are fun and easy – a crab, seahorse, dolphin, whales, turtle or seals. Geckos and parrots would also be hits. Sand dollars, shells and starfish would also make someone really happy.

Children especially love face painting or you could do it as part of your Halloween costume.

Go to this site for art ideas – enter Hawaiian or Tropical



Create an Online Persona and Get Hired 2

This is a continuation of Create an Online Persona and Get Hired 1.

So, now that you have Googled yourself, prepared your professional resume for posting online, acquired a new email address, purchased a Web site, and started a blog, here are some steps to improving your Google results.


Your Web site may be the most difficult thing to get up and running well. Just think of managing your SERP or search-engine results page as you would handling public relations .

There are a few things that are out of your control, but a few things you can do to get good results. You may not be able to bury all the negative press out there, but you can highlight the positive press in your favor.

Join LinkedIn

LinkedIn.com is currently the largest business social networking site. It allows you to connect with experts and colleagues in your specific field. You can also promote your accomplishments without the possible embarrassment on other social networking sites.

Only professional information is put on LinkedIn. Once you are in, your profile will be available at linkedin.com/in/your name. You can customize your public profile web address if you like. Then you can post your URL on your resume, blog or Web site. Google usually rates LinkedIn profiles highly.

It is best to keep your information current and use your knowledge and experience to answer other people’s questions so you become more visible on LinkedIn.

If you recommend others on the site, they are likely to reciprocate.

Your Website

Now that you have your own site, you will need to get it to go to the top of Google’s search-engine results page (SERP). Keywords have more weight if they are in the URL of the page. So, try to incorporate the most important (target) words into the URL address.

Google will search your site for clues to its content, so if you use target words more often, your Web site should appear higher in the results.


Google also searches for relevant links on your site. You need backlinks to your website, so link to it from other sites you might be on including your blog, LinkedIn, Facebook and ZoomInfo and make links on them to your own site.

Zoominfo gathers bits of online info associated with your name. You might want to check there to see what it brings up first and whether or not it is accurant and up to date. If you find yourself on Zoominfo, you can claim your profile and fill in your updated professional information. Another site that collects data on individuals is Spoke.com.


I have already written about this social networking site, Facebook. Depending on your goals, it may or may not help with your business relationships.

You should learn to use the privacy settings. You will not be able to manage every photo that someone tags of you, nor control what someone may want to write on your wall, although you can untag photos and delete wall posts later.

If you decide to be on Facebook, decide if it is for socializing or professional. It is best used for social purposes. Suggest to business contacts that they connect with you through LinkedIn rather than Facebook.

Make Comments or Write Articles

On business-related blogs, forums or sites, you can make comments. Often when someone Googles you, your comments will show up.

Make sure your comments are professional and show you in a positive light. You can also contribute article to sites that are related to your industry such as About.com, eHow.com and Google Knol.


Following the feeds of well-respected people in your industry can be advantageous, but not necessary. You will have a pretty full schedule updating your blog, Web site, and LinkedIn profile, so this may be an extra step if you find time.

Face-to-Face Networking

Having an impressive online persona is important, but if you have no social skills, it will eventually be found out.

If it is important in your line of work, you should get out and meet with people and make some personal connections. Put on your best attire, do a little grooming (or a lot) and get out there.